Some research on Americans’ sexual behavior comes to us from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, in a study funded by Trojan condoms. Most of the study looks at titillating stuff like masturbation, anal sex, and faked orgasms, but researchers seem also to have discovered that a lot of old people manage to have sexual intercourse and find it “pleasurable.”
Those who write reports like this one, and the journalists who extrapolate from their summaries, must surely be in their 30’s. How else to explain the condescension with which this data is reported? I hate the way they perpetuate the myth that sex for seniors is tepid.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not looking for sex that is merely “pleasurable.” Pleasurable is what I want in a documentary about porpoises, or a leisurely autumn stroll. What I want vis a vis sex is the earth moving, fireworks, the 1812 Overture, and speaking in tongues (no pun intended).
And I’m not the only one. In response to an ABC News article about the Indiana study, a reader posted this inspirational comment:
We have a big whirlpool tub that my wife loves. She soaks with a few glasses of wine, scented candles and a book. I bring her chocolate once in a while. After an hour of that and a half hour of foreplay, no need to fake it. …. Guys, take it from an old man who’s been married for a long time. If you only have a few minutes, wait until you have enough time to do it right. It’s worked for 35 years .