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Anything To Avoid Rejection


Your senior man has been out of the dating game for decades, but he still remembers the day long ago when he asked his fantasy girl to go to the Senior Prom and she said, “Huh? Oh my God, you’re kidding, right?”

So he will not ask, “Will you join me on a cruise?” or “How’d you like to go on a cruise?” He’ll say instead, “I’ve been imagining myself on a cruise to Alaska. Up and down the channels, you know. It’s got to be beautiful.”

If you like him (and you like cruising — and you want to cruise with him) you’ll answer:

  • “Alaska is SO beautiful!! I can understand why you want to go there – I’ve always wanted to do that cruise myself, but I could never think of anyone I’d like to go with.” Optional: “…before I met you”

If a week in a ship’s cabin with a man who is a bit too hairy and beer-bellied sounds scary (and if you’re having an awfully bad day), you’ll say:

  • “I hear Alaska is freezing and damp, and it’s too windy to stay out on the deck and you have to watch out for bears, and there are a million insects, and my girlfriend got this HORRIBLE cold….”

If you don’t want to go, or you’re not ready for this kind of intimacy, but you like him enough to keep him around, you can just say:

  • “I’ll bet that would be tons of fun. I wish I didn’t get so violently seasick if I even LOOK at an ocean-going vessel.”

If you want to go, but as his guest instead of having to come up with your own $1000, it would be wise to jump right on it before he discusses sharing:

  • “What a lovely idea! You’re so romantic! I’m thrilled to have such a gracious invitation!”

One of these days you’ll be cruising with the man of your dreams because that is what seniors do. We cruise. Even those of us who think it’s too restricting, or too expensive, or too scary, or we’re going to be seasick. Cruising is a most romantic venue for seniors.  I don’t even like cruises and that’s what I want to do when Mr. Right and I find each other.

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'Anything To Avoid Rejection' have 6 comments

  1. December 13, 2011 @ 2:32 pm MsPreserved

    Cruising with someone will let you know in a concentrated space of time if you want to be with him. I had a man ask me to go camping with him. The principle is the same because there are close quarters, intimacy, taking turns dressing in a small space. I was pretending though, because I didn’t like camping and did it to get him interested. Turned out I didn’t want him anyway, but at least I learned this quickly.

  2. November 17, 2011 @ 9:57 am Ellie

    It’s pretty risky to go on a travel date with someone you dont know very well. I don’t believe in going alone but I think I’d rather go with a friend male or female than with someone I might feel stuck with in close quarters.

  3. November 13, 2011 @ 12:31 pm Alicia

    I get it about the intimacy. It’s close quarters in a cabin and not much chance for modesty. I don’t think I could do this except with someone I had been with for a long time.

  4. July 12, 2011 @ 2:06 pm Carrie

    I went on a cruise with a man I knew only slightly and even though we talked ahead of time about how we would have to behave it was a disaster. I didn’t see a lot of him because he likes gambling and sunbathing and I hate both of those things. I like to read and go for early morning walks. In the mornings I got dressed in the tiny bathroom and at night I went to sleep while he was still in the casino. I’ll be more careful next time. We’re still friends, though.

  5. May 22, 2011 @ 9:20 pm Colby

    Glad I’ve finally found something I agree with! Men are so afraid of rejection. I think women are much better at listening to what someone has to say and thinking seriously about it, then proceeding rationally. I don’t lose a lot of sleep over bneing rejected, unless it’s by someone who really matters, and then it’s a different story.

  6. October 15, 2009 @ 6:27 pm WSJ

    Anyone know the best cruise lines for seniors?

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